I am a teacher. I have a young son, and I love being off when he is out for school holidays and spending summers together. I feel I have the best of both worlds. I recently married a woman who is 14 years younger than me and is also a teacher. My wife hates the profession. She feels it isn’t exciting or respectable enough. Her opinions about teaching hurt my feelings because I believe it is a noble career, plus it gives me quality time with my son.
My wife has decided to join the police force. It didn’t happen out of the blue. We have discussed it for the last five years. I have told her it isn’t the life I want. I worked hard to reach a point in my life to have a family and take summer vacations with my son. I was honest with her from the beginning. She often says she wants the time with our family too, and that she won’t join the police force. Then, days later, she brings it up again.
We have been married only six months, but I regret it already. I didn’t get married to be alone all the time and to take vacations without my spouse. I love her, but I feel betrayed and lied to. I also don’t think she’ll be a good cop -- she is just obsessed with police shows and thinks it’s going to be like that. She’s throwing away a great career for one I think she’ll leave in a year or two. I feel our biggest challenge is her lack of experience. What do I do?Calm down.
You each appear to have very different ideas about what a happy marriage consists of. If a compromise can’t be reached, and because your marriage has been such a short one, it might be better for the two of you to cordially part ways.Dear Abby: The sounds from our neighbor’s lovemaking has rattled our once-quiet streetDear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.