About 15 years ago, he bumped into my sister, and we got back in touch via email. It was cordial, and we mainly shared information about our spouses and children. One day, he called my office, and when I asked him why he was calling, he said he wanted to know if there was “anything left.” I told him that there wasn’t and that I had married my soulmate. He accepted that, and we went back to annual Christmas cards and emails of family updates.
A few weeks ago, I got a card at my office saying he remembered that in college, I had a new down coat that was stolen from his apartment and that he was planning on sending me a new one. I recycled the card and thought nothing more about it. Last week, an expensive down coat arrived at my office with a note saying it was a replacement for the one I lost 47 years ago. I returned the coat.
DEAR STUMPED: While most people would indeed interpret silence as disinterest, your ex clearly needs a more straightforward message. Send him one last email with any and everything you have left to say. Explain how uncomfortable you feel, and though that likely wasn’t his intention, you don’t wish to communicate with him anymore in any capacity. Block him on all communication platforms.
This ungrateful brother already “exploded” and made his position clear. “Grieving and Not Prepared” needs to teach this ingrate a lesson, hire a lawyer and subpoena the sister to verify there was indeed a loan that he admitted he would not pay back! This irresponsible jerk should face the music. -- Enough Is Enough