Enduring sexual molestation from fellow students was an experience a man who only identified himself as Okonkwo, had to grapple with during his days in a boarding school.
Ashy Orlawaley Yusuph’s experience was not different from that of Okonkwo. But for sheer determination and strong moral upbringing his parents gave him, his stint at boarding school in the early 2000s would have influenced him to become gay. For Kenneth, the fact that he hasn’t had the opportunity to share his experience of sexual molestation at Federal Government College , Kwali, Abuja, is something that he finds amusing and sad at the same time.
Also speaking, Kingsley recounted the difficulty male students molested face in trying to report. He said: “Even when you report to the school authorities, the best they would do is to give light punishments or suspend the perpetrator for some time, after which you'd still face the same or even worse molestation from them and their likes. I had to bear this thing till I was big enough to stand up and fight for myself whenever such wanted to happen.
“This should be my first time talking about it. I've learnt to live with it and swallow the hurt,” he added. His parents would have been the best people to talk to in that situation but their “strict” nature didn’t help matters either. He said,"One of the things that bring about issues like this is when school administrations pay little or less attention to issues raised by students. If you condone a particular behaviour over a particular period of time, it becomes a way of life. There is a hierarchy of control in the boarding house. If you attend a boarding house, you're supposed to add value not become a liability.
He, however, lamented how parents of abused children have formed the habit of making it an avenue for financial favours. According to him, sexual molestation in male children vary from male-male to male-female, and could involve anal penetration.“They don't really want to be associated with that terminology so a lot of them prefer to keep quiet, they may think that people around them may think they became victims because they are weak or gay. They may think the victim consented to it. Sometimes it's difficult for male to prove they were raped.
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